by Susan Leigh
During the pandemic we've been besieged with constant updates about the dangers of going out, making it a stressful, unappealing activity. Many of us have discovered the convenience of having food, clothes, work, education and socialising delivered to our homes. We’re able to save time, money and avoid the stress of leaving home.
After weeks of scary statistics and conflicting information going out can feel overwhelming, daunting. Why go out when we're faced with ongoing regulations; queuing, mandatory face coverings, one-way systems, no browsing, no trying on in shops, pre-booking, social distancing, limited numbers, table service only, no cash accepted in some venues.
When you're struggling with the fear of going out, FOGO, remember that practically everyone's been through the same struggles as you.
Set small goals for yourself. It might be an errand, a social call. Have a reason for going out. Focus on your goal and distract yourself.
Drive yourself there if possible. That way you're independent of public transport, free of timetables and other passengers. Or keep the taxi number to hand.
Arrange to meet a family member or friend, someone who understands and is supportive of you. They can provide encouragement if you’re stressed or anxious.
Include a reward. As you feel more positive about going out find a pleasant cafe. Treat yourself to a coffee or light lunch. Hospitality is stringent about the rules, so be assured of your safety.
Take a book. Take something to read, distract and engage you. Use the opportunity to widen your comfort zone, work on your confidence and practice doing a little more.
Yes, we need to maintain sensible precautions. Now it's time to venture outdoors it’s important to turn fear into reasonable concern, overcome FOGO, spend money, invest in our local businesses, support our communities, but recognise that for many of us normal will look a little different from now on.
Susan Leigh, Altrincham Counsellor & Hypnotherapist www.lifestyletherapy.net